Dear Wisdom Boy,

How does one deal with the death of someone closer than close when one doesn’t believe in Heaven or Hell…. Is there such a thing as stopping the world and getting off? If not why are these silly things said?

Has anyone ever stopped the world and just got right off for a while…would it be as bad as camping?

Why can you pick your friends and not your mother…?

Have I asked too many questions this time?

Why can’t I sleep?

~ Truly Pamdora!

Dear Pamdora,

As Wisdom Boy I have extensive experience with failure, despite my youth, and have learnt from sad experience that one can never tell another how to deal. One’s dealings have to be dealt with by one’s self.

However, as a person who does not believe in an afterlife (from what you say) you may be helped if I elucidate belief. Many people agree with you and many do not. The only thing for sure is that nobody knows for sure, all they do is believe. Same with you. You do not know what happened to the spirit or beingness of your loved one after death. Mystery is not much consolation but it is all we have. Life is a mystery and then we die. Maybe we find out, who knows? We must cling to what we know, and that is that life is good, sometimes.

No one has ever stopped the world and gotten off. It would not be as bad as camping. Silly things are said because people are silly. You cannot pick your mother because you are not old enough. You have not asked too many questions.

My dearest Pamdora, you cannot sleep because you want to sleep. If you wanted to stay awake you would drop right off.

My deepest consolation for your loss, young friend. How can you deal with it? I do not know, but I know you must and you shall. Breathe deep and weep. Drink lots of water and eat.

Goddess bless,

Wisdom Boy